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Thursday, July 25, 2024

Happy Birthday to me

Hello again, People of the page.


 I know its been a while, but I am still the same old boring me. Now just a year older....


I started me 42nd trip around the sun on this god forsaken rock as it hurtles thru space...

But seriously I have had a few wrighting prompts pop into my head. 


We will see if I can actually get any words put on the page and if I do I will think about sharing it with you all. 


But here is the prompt: 

 "What comes with snow when it melts? Spring.

  "Please let him be happy, and Ill be like snow in a world without spring... even if it's until I take my last breath."



Let me know what you all think. And let me know if you know where that's from.


As always you can reach me at chefdoug0723@gmail.com just put Blog somewhere in the subject line

Monday, May 27, 2024

Hobbies, Ideas, and sibling time

Hello Dear Readers, 


Once again I know it's been a while, but as always I feel like I don't have anything to say. As of right now nothing has changed except that I have had an idea, and I wanted to bounce it off of you all.


So here goes...


I am a consumer of podcasts as are probably most of you. And in the book review space I haven't seen many Black/POC reviewers especially in the romance genre, and even less of them are book reviewers. Now I am only a recent consumer of romance literature, particularly queer romance. But I have a sibling who is, and she has also said, "there are too many dudes with podcasts," so I asked her is she wanted to start one with me where we go back and forth recommending and than reading, and reviewing books.


As of this moment she hasn't responded to my idea... 


But what do you all think about a sibling podcast where we recommend and review books from all genres and, probably even the popular books circulating book-tok and other social media platforms. 


As far as what makes us unique. I am a bi/pan-sexual cis black dude, chef and avid reader of multiple genres, and my sister, a cis black woman who may also be somewhere on the LGBTQ spectrum, (she is my little sister, I'm not that deep in her sex life. Ewww...), she also happens to be a writer of romance, and a less avid or diverse reader.


So dear readers feel free to email me ideas and stuff chefdoug0723@gmail.com put blog somewhere in the subject.


Also my idea for the first book is to make her cry and read The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller. Also let me know if you folks would like a full solo review of it or any of the books I'm reading lately.


As always Thanks for reading and I'll be back soon ish. Sooner if I get some feedback... much love


As always Thanks for your time. Love you all, and until next time.

Monday, February 12, 2024

New Year, Same Me...

 Hello, people of the page. I know it's been a while. But I have to say it was recently brought to my attention that there are a few of you who still pop by regularly looking for updates. 


I realized after I started the YouTube channel and this blog to share my life, some cooking tips and things with you all that I am supremely boring. To have something to talk about, you have to go out and do things. I mostly don't, and I absolutely hate editing videos and listening to myself talk. Also, I've changed apartments several times since the last YouTube video, and my current residence , while perfectly comfortable and liveable, would make trying to film cooking content an absolute nightmare. Realistically, I honestly ran out of things to talk about. And with no viewer engagement I had no idea what any of you wanted to see me do. At the bottom of this posting I will leave my email address. Let me know what you want to see.


I have been told often that I have "Old Lady" hobbies.

I do actually knit and crochet and do have plans to cast on a sweater

in the not too distant future. If anyone reading this wants to know

more and get regular updates let me know.








I play tabletop war games like Warhammer 40,000(40K),

Age of Sigmar, and Blood Bowl all produced by Games workshop.

well as Kings of War Armada produced by Mantic Games


and Fallout: Wasteland Warfare produced by Modiphius.

And I am in the middle of a large-scale repaint of one of

my armies, and coming to a major decision tree for how I

continue with another army.  If any of you want to see

updates and hear about games played as the year

progresses let me know. And with several works in

progress I could talk at length about any of them. 


And in that same vein of painting minis, I also play Dungeons and Dragons aka. D&D, as well as a few other TTRPG's. I am currently in the beginning phases of setting up a campaign to run my play group through when my turn comes in the next year or so. I am also planning on running my siblings through a one-shot as 1 of them has played, and the rest are curious. 


So with that, I will leave you. Please email me at chefdoug0723@gmail.com and put Blog somewhere in the subject line, and let me know what you all want to see from me.


Looking forward to hearing from you soon…










Friday, December 9, 2022

Writing Sample

       The path to destiny is rarely ever a straight line, and for Nassir that was exactly the case. Being the oldest of 5 was not something he thought made him special. He knew he was loved, his parents made sure that it was known, felt, and demonstrated. He loved his siblings and took his care of them seriously, and was proud to be fiercely protective of his family. 

      So on the day that fate came knocking, it caught him and his family off guard. On this, the first day of autumn a strange wind blew into the sleepy town of Atmore. Gathering his siblings from school he noiced a strange new star in the sky that he was sure didn't belong, and could have sworn wasn't there just hours ago as he finished up his daily chores just hours ago, and was most definately not there last night.

     Looking up into the sky as he ushered the smaller children into he grandmothers house, next door to their family home, somthing made him uneasy, setting off alarm bells in his head. Happy cheers of the kids shouting, "Nana," and running into the house for hugs drew him out of his brooding. Mattie, his meternal grandmother, Nana to him and half the children of the neighborhood, owned most of the land on the block around their houses, had for as long as he could remember lived in the little home next door, but heard stories from momma about how  his current room had been hers as the oldest of her 4 siblings. And how, when Grandpa passed away, shortly after marrying dad, she'd had the smaller house built and offered the house to his parents, and mostly because the promise of a convient babysitter, but so she could keep an eye on her mom, it was aparently an offer they couldnt refuse.

     "What's wrong, baby?" his grandmother's voice snapping his attention back to the presant. 

     "Nothing," he says shaking his head, "just some wierd new star or something." He walks over to her for his turn to hug her. 

     His grandmother wasn't a large woman, but she was stout and strong, and he caramel brown eyes had the uncanny wisdom of knowing just what was needed at any given moment. Her careworn, chocolate brown face, uasually had a smile, and as he laned in for his hug, the comforting smell of her cocoa butter lotion hit his nostrils. After the hug, her strong hands gripped his giving a gentle squeeze, "After I get there little 'uns settled show me. You go sit for a moment while I get them snacks.

     He nods, sitting in the comfortable, worn arm chair, "Yes, Ma'am."

Welcome Back

 Well y'all, I know it;s been a hot minute. Where has the time gone. It's been a hand full of years and I have gone thru my fair share of changes, just as I am sure you all have too. So much as changed for me I don't even know where to begin. I'll  give you the cliff notes version and thn we will talk about what I am thnking of doing with this blog moving forward.


Lets see, where to start. Well I've relocated about 100 miles east to just outside of Providence, RI. I've had a few different jobs, and have settled nicely into a job at a restaruant as a cook. And its fun, I fit in well and enjoy the people I work with, even 4 years in and I don't se that changing. Maybe I'll tell y'all more about that eventually, we shall see.


My family, while mostly healthy, has suffered a loss. My mom has passed on from this world leaving a Felicia sized hole, that only she could fit. The feelings of grief while not new to me, I have discovered are as complex and indivdual as the person I am grieving. Mom, you are missed, and I do miss your voice, even as annoyng as it was to hear your phone calls start with, "Hey, My Big Son..." 


Now on to what hasn't changed. I am still single, and not really looking to change that, but who knows what tomorrow holds with that... I've found that at 40, I am still just as bad at saving money as I always was. While I don't make the money I made working at the hospital, I make enough to affrord everything I need and some of what I want. My savings accout, and emergency fund are sorely underfunded <cough, cough $25, cough, cough> as of this writing. I am still just as nerdy and into books as always, with no signs of changing. Still collecting books and cookbooks even whn I know I shouldn't because I don't have space, or money.


I still have many of the same hobbies as before, Warhmmer, still just as expensive as it always has been. I hve even started the undertaking o repainting my whole Necron Army, and should probably be painting those insted of writing this, but here we are. Besides the Necrons there is also The Dark Angels, as well as a new Age of Sigmar army, Stormcast Eternals. as well as a whole host of other games with minis to assemble and paint. I am sure there will be plenty of talk and pics of that to come.


 And here is where you come in, Dear Reader, I am trying to start a side gig of maybe offeing online email based Tarot card readings to start. As well as the potntial of writing more about my adventures thru tabletop games lik Warhammer and the like aw well as TTRPG's like Dungeons & Dragons. I've noticed the majority of contet about any of it, is from people who don't look like me or have my prspective. That is to say they are not Black, urban and Bisexual. So while I have had mostly positive interactions in the hobby space, it should be no suprise that I have had some lees then steller ones which have shaped my perspective. And recently I have thought I should maybe look into shareing some of my perspective for other people of color and help them find this hobby, because it is massivly fun. 


As always I welcome any of your thoughts and ideas. Feel free to email me at chefdoug0723@gmail.com and offer me suggestions as well as to talk about recieving a tarot card reading. 


And to you Dear Reader, thank you for your time, and sticking with me after all this time. Blessings and Prosperity to you and yours.


    Doug

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Racism, Marriage Equality, and the long road



Once again dear readers. I totally apologize for the long absence.

It has been about a year since I lost my job at the hospital. And there have been lots of ups and downs. I do finally have a job, and have since the end of March. I am not totally proud to be working for minimum wage. But to hell with it, its a job and I can almost support myself again.

And now, on to the real reason I have decided to post.

(Steps up on a soap box and clears throat)

Recently America has shown itself to be fairly progressive as far as marriage equality is concerned. It took a case going all the way to the supreme court before it became nationally legal for same sex marriages to be nationally recognized. And the far left Christiam extremists are having puppies about it. Claiming that the supreme court is violating their religious rights. America has also shown how far it still needs to go.

Now if there are any Christians that do happen to read my blog, first Thank you, and secondly how is it that your religious liberty has been violated? No one is saying that your churches have to perform the marriage ceremonies, or even that you have to welcome them into your church. All this decision means is that as far as the government is concerned the concept of a marriage, 2 people becoming a single entity as far as tax benefits, and income calculation is concerned. If you want to claim that “marriage” is a religious thing, then lets get rid of the tax benefits and state issued marriage licenses and let churches and religious institutions issue them. In which case you haven't stopped gay marriages because there are plenty of other religions that have no issue with same sex unions.

To the Christians I also have this to say, your God, in all of his infinite wisdom made gay people. Even if you believe it is a choice and not something you are born as, even then he gave them the ability to be who and what they are. You don't have to agree with, or like it, but God made them. And aren't you as a follower of Christ commanded to love thy neighbor as you love thyself? Are you not also called to not cast judgment, because that is God's job? So seriously just let it go. Or as Jesus himself is susposed to have said in Matthew, “Render that which is Caesar's unto Caesar, and that which is God's unto God.”
In other words, live your life according to your bible. Let other people live they way they desire and let god sort it out in the end....


On to the other issue. I try my hardest not let myself become just another angry black man. Because for all of its flaws America is still pretty good for the most part. But as many of you have come to see of the past couple years with the advent of camera phones that systemic violence against people of color is not a new thing. And recently with the #BlackLivesMatter movement it is gaining national attention.

It is a sad but true fact of existence that I as a black man will, and have been considered a criminal first and anything else secondly. Growing up I was taught that if I were to be stopped by an officer to not have my hands in my pockets and to not make any sudden movements. Even as a youth I could be seen as an adult even being only 12 or 13. And that I couldn't play with toy guns because as a black male, the cops would shoot me without asking questions if they thought I was armed and dangerous, which would be the assumption anyway.

I have seen the difference with which cops have treated me, versus my white friends. Coming home from work one night I had an officer slam me into the hood of his car, cuff, and tell me I was just some worthless scum bag. And when I reported said officer that report just disappeared. I could tell you countless other stories. I am made aware of my race every moment of every day. And to have people, who don't have my life experiences tell me that I should get over it, because discussions about inequality make them uncomfortable. We have, for too long, made it a point to not make people uncomfortable. So we don't teach or talk about the uncomfortable parts of history. We stop letting kids read great books about history because it has language that is hard to talk about and explain.

Recently, due to one guy with racist ideology, the Rebel flag has become an issue and people want it to be taken off of public, and government buildings. And there are people who say the flag is more about Heritage then hate, which can be true. But you are ignoring a big section of what the Confederacy stood for, and why the rebel flag become popular in the 1940's at the beginning of civil rights movement. Do I think the flag should be taken down? I don't know. Does the flag offend me? No, not really. Do I understand why some people are offended? Yeah.

If anything, I think we as a society need to worry less about offending people, especially if it involves telling the uncomfortable truth, so that we can all grow, and become better as a nation. And not burying our heads in the sand and telling ourselves the pretty lie.


(Steps down and walks away shaking my head)

Saturday, March 14, 2015

Family, Alabama and other things

Hello all,

 I know it has been a long while since you all have heard from me. And I am truly sorry about that, there really is no excuse. Just to bring you all up to speed on things. I am unfortunately still unemployed. And this is the longest stretch of time I have been without a job since being eligible to work. And I have applied everywhere possible. I think I might be giving in to my urge to move pretty soon. I promise to keep you all up to date on that decision. I know my  promises don't mean much at this point any more.


My last post was October and since then I have been job hunting. I have attempted starting an Etsy business but with the hobbies I have it takes a major time commitment to build an inventory to start, and I haven't gotten there yet. But you can eventually be on the look out for that. I will be selling hand made Afghans, blankets and throws. As well as scarves and maybe socks if I get talented enough.

Also In January I went to Alabama with my sister to visit my mother and my great grandmother. I hadn't been to Alabama in about 15 years so it was great seeing family that I don't get to see to often. It also re-affirmed for me why I don't want to live in the south. I was there in the middle of January and most of the week I was down there it was above 65, even on the rainy days.


How have I been living? I cashed in the small pension I would have received from my job, and have been using that to pay my rent, and bills. But as we know, stuff like that won't last always. Hopefully something turns up soon, I am trying to remain positive about it all.

Tomorrow is the St. Patrick's Parade here so I should have so fun pictures for you all tomorrow. And I do promise to actually post stuff.